Pause When You Need a Break
Season 1. Episode 16.
When you are walking this road and your heart is feeling weary from another failed round of treatment, it’s easy to want to avoid the pain and jump right back into another round. This is my classic go to strategy to avoid feeling the things: just fill my life with busyness and it won’t hurt as bad. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work! I want to share with you all the beautiful things that came from our time of paused treatment.
Pausing brings healing.
For us, taking the time to pause gave me the space to process my emotions and face the grief.
Pausing allows you to be still and hear from God more clearly.
There is a direct call in Psalm 46:10 to be still. It’s so important to block out the noise, get still, quiet your mind and heart and allow yourself to hear from God.
Pausing gives you time to find the best clinic.
It’s so hard to stop treatment to look for another clinic, but sometimes this decision is the best choice.
Pausing allows you to catch up / get ahead / plan ahead financially.
Paying for a baby is not how it’s supposed to be, but unfortunately it is the reality for some of us. It helped me feel like I was being proactive while I waited to work on mapping out a financial plan to pay for our next round of treatment.
Pausing gives your heart a break and a chance to rest.
Rest is not wasted time.
Encouragement from Chapter 4 called The Grace of Your Story:
“We are not in control of most things that happen in our lives. We want health, but we are handed a life-threatening illness. We want financial security, but we can’t find a job in our field. We want marriage, but we find ourselves single. We want to make our flight on time, but an accident delays us. None of those things are what we would have picked, and we can’t control them, but we can control our attitudes about and our responses to our circumstances.
I learned the hard way that my negative words and attitude were not the way to give myself grace. So now when I’m challenged, I take the time I need to process or grieve the situation, and then I act on the naming rights I’ve been given. I choose to shift my attitude, to lean into what God is teaching me, to open my eyes to the blessings in my life, and to give this circumstance a positive name. And you can too. You can take the label you’ve given yourself or that others have tried to put on you, and you can change it. You can take back your naming rights. Attitude is a choice we must make every single day, sometimes multiple times a day.” - Give Grace book
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